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 Do you know your Ayurvedic dosha and why this matters for a healthy sex life? 

 Here is the truth- Fulfilling sexual expressions are REALLY important, which is why Kama, or sensual intimacy, is one of the pillars of the Vedic culture and human happiness. 

Also fact- many of you have been conditioned to feel ashamed about your sexual desires, and have stuffed, repressed, or downright not even known what you like and what brings you pleasure.

I'm talking about the way your Ayurvedic constitution shows you how to have  fulfulling sensual experiences that rejuvenate you instead of depleting you.

Because when you don’t feel connected to your sex, sensuality, and even your partner- all kinds of problems can come up, including feeling bored in the bedroom, avoiding sex because it doesn’t feel good even though you are horny af, and rifts between you and more or less sexually desirous partners. 

Fun fact- your dominant dosha type speaks to what kind of sexual play you will like and how often you should have it! Because here is the truth- Sex is a SUPER important part of life, and you should understand your body type, your erotic blueprint type, and what herbs support it for more fulfilling sensual experiences. So read on to learn about yourself, your partner, and how to connect to your archetype for a sexier, more fulfilling, and healthier sensual experience. 

The Adventurer- Vata people- You like variety in all things, including where you have sex and possibly who you have sex with. The plus side of this type is a sense of willingness to try anything! The down side of this type is that physically you need to careful of how much sexual energy you give out because it can really deplete you when in excess. You are into how things feel more than they look, and tend towards being an energetic, sensual, kinky, or shapeshifter erotic blueprint type. This type does well with herbal elixirs after sex to keep vitality strong.  Best herb- Ashwagandha

Hot Blooded- Pitta people. Pitta people are very visual, and they tend to want to have sex a lot when compared to the other doshas. This archetype is turned on by beautiful outfits and rendezvous places, as the visual component is very strong. They lean towards sexual and kinky erotic blueprint types. Pitta people should be careful to moderate their sexual output because their insatiable sexual desire can lead them to a sexual frequency that wears them out. Pitta people will often feel very frustrated if they can’t release sexually, and need to make sure they have outlets for their erotic energy that don’t put all the pressure on their partner to meet their needs, esp if they are dating a Vata type. Best herb- Shatavari

The All Nighter- Kapha people- you have the most stamina of all the doshas, but may need a little extra push to get you in the bedroom.  And once you get going- well, I said All Nighter for a reason You have the greatest capacity to have frequent sex without worrying as much about depletion. This archetype has slower fire, but once you get that fire lit, it’s unstoppable. Kapha people love emotional connection, and tend towards being an energetic or sexual archetype. They can see beauty in all body types, and are highly attuned to others needs. They need to be mindful about people pleasing, and should practice expressing their desires. Best herb- Gokshura

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I see a lot of clients as an Āyurvedic Practitioner and transformation Coach, and they come to me with many types of concerns-  they want more energy and vitality, a desire to achieve more, and to let go of emotional patterns that no longer serve- But at their core, each and every one of them (and you reading this!) wants the same thing- To be fully seen in the unique emanation of the Divine that is YOU.

Remember when you were a kid and your teachers asked you- “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Somewhere along the way, we were taught that we had to “do” or “be” a certain way in order to be successful, or we experienced a trauma that made us shrink back from this original truth that ANYTHING is possible.

Humanity is in a crisis- A crisis of self-criticism, shame, and suppression that has led people to act all kinds of crazy in an attempt to release that which is begging to be brought forth- your DIVINE PURPOSE that is your gift to humanity!!

Every person on this planet has a potent medicine, a divine calling that your Soul came here to express, but not everyone will answer that call because you are too scared, too conditioned, and too uncertain to take the LEAP into being weird AF and totally yourself.

The Truth is, being your-Self not only heals yourself, it elevates the collective consciousness of humanity so we can come together in unity to the environmental crisis our world is facing. When people are living in trauma, it is VERY hard to see past the immediate problems they are facing to deal with bigger problems or opportunities.. How does that healing begin? By allowing yourself to truly be SEEN without filter or FILLER, to speak your truth, and by letting your freak flag fly without pain or shame.

I’ve had more practice being weird than most- I grew up in conservative Kansas rocking pink hair and gold doc martens, and my family was not any more normal-My mother is a german immigrant, my stepdad is black, my stepmom is taiwanese, and I have 5 sisters all ages and colors of the rainbow. Needless to see, we were not your typical neighbors down the street.

Then society happened. I was picked on for being “nerdy” which led me to rebel against my scholastic ability for really shitty grades in the name of being “cool”.  I used to have self-doubt around being a professional who says fuck a LOT and tricked myself into thinking I should tone it down. I thought because I still had health concerns that I was a bad health care professional, and that my life had to be “perfect” before I could serve others-- all of which turned out to be USELESS conditioning that only served to block me from expressing myself fully and led to to shitty emotions like

-criticism

-anxiety

-insecurity

-jealousy

-and even anger!

That’s right! Suppressing myself caused me to act all SORTS of crazy- and not the good kind. And I’m not alone in this- most of my clients who come to me with feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and insecurity are suppressing their true natures, and are so stuck in the matrix their egos have created that they need my help to get out, because I’ve already taken that journey and know the way. The truth is, your WEIRD is what makes you WONDERFUL, even if your 13 year old self that was insulted by someone thinks otherwise.

As Alan Watts so succinctly says,

“For unless one is able to live fully in the present, the future is a hoax. There is no point whatsoever in making plans for a future which you will never be able to enjoy. When your plans mature, you will still be living for some other future beyond. You will never, never be able to sit back with full contentment and say, ‘Now, I’ve arrived!’ Your entire education has deprived you of this capacity because it was preparing you for the future, instead of showing you how to be alive now.”

When we suppress our inherent nature, when we go the route of “supposed to” instead “I get to”, our lives feel meaningless and dull- because when you aren’t living your purpose, your life IS meaning-less- and your spirit gets PISSED.

There is an African proverb that says, “A child who does not feel embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”

Too many people are burning down their lives because they aren’t living their TRUTH, which brings out so many self-destructive patterns.

The TRUTH is- Self-ish and Self-less both begin in the same place. With YOU.

You have to put on your oxygen mask before you can serve other people, and that means letting yourself do, act, speak, and be the thing your heart is yearning for.

You HAVE to let your freak flag fly- and the happy side effect is you will learn how to accept others JUST as they are when you learn to do the same for you.

You MUST be your-SELF! Because when you suppress your-Self, you will not be able to heal, and you will get stuck repeating the same old lessons until you finally figure it out. Why not speed up the process? Haven’t you had enough hard lessons? I know I have!

It’s time to put your matches down and come home to your-Self- not the little self that has been holding you back, but the big Self that is calling you forward. Your value is inherent, you are priceless, so stop selling your soul for shiny pennies that don’t add ANY value to the bank account that matters. The memory bank that values service, compassion, and wisdom. The memory bank that holds the imprint of your Divine Self that has travelled lifetime to lifetime, body to body, and is whole, perfect, and complete.

The World NEEDS your light to shine. And so, dear one, do YOU.

From keeping it spicy in the bedroom to feeling ALIVE, your libido is an important marker of more than just your sexual health, but your overall health! That’s right! Your libido has a lot to say about how well your body is functioning, and being too high, low, or nonexistent are major signs on the roadmap to wellness. So how can we read these signs, what can we do when our libido is less than optimal, and how can we use this information to promote happiness and healthy aging? Read on to learn this as well as how we can replenish our bodies for increased happiness, vibrancy, and immunity. And yes, for a healthy libido🔥 

Healthy libido vs. healthy body

 While we tend to assume a healthy libido means you regularly desire sex, a better definition is this- having a healthy libido is one that is constitutionally appropriate for you.

What does that mean?

It means that if we have low or no libido because we are depleted, sick, very elderly, or have a vāta imbalanced constitution, this would be considered appropriate or even healthy because having sex in these conditions is NOT.

Explain please

If your health is compromised in some way, the last thing you should be doing is potentially reproducing and giving away ojas- this stuff is responsible for your deep health and vibrancy and gets depleted from emitting sexual fluids!

In short, if you want to have a healthy libido, you need to address your overall health and build up your ojas.

What is ojas and how is this related to sexual health and libido?

I was hoping you would ask!

Ojas (ओजस्)= “vital essence”)

Ojas translates to ‘that which invigorates’ and is reflected by your inner strength, immunity, and vibrancy.

“Just as bees collect honey from the nectar of flowers, the digestive fire collects ojas from the essence of all the tissues of your bodies.”

Ojas is the seat of  your ‘prāṇa’, or life-force. It permeates the entire body, and is closely connected to the heart, the primary seat of ojas.

It is of two main types:

1. Refined: Located in the heart, said to consist of 8 drops
2. Unrefined: Permeates the entire body; its normal quantity is about a handful.

When you run out of ojas, you die. THAT’s how important it is!

How can having “excessive” sex cause you to lose ojas and thus age prematurely? 

Your body is an amazing machine and will do whatever you ask of it- but NOT FOR FREE and only up to a point. A great example is caffeine- while you might feel energized for the moment, caffeine is actually an energetic credit card. Interpretation- Caffeine pulls on the deeper reserves of our body, like our organ energy, to give us that energetic “boost”. This means we are actually depleting ourselves further when we rely on coffee for energy instead of a healthy lifestyle.

Okay, enough with the coffee analogy, how the heck does that relate to having sex, ojas, and premature aging?

Similar to what happens to our bodies with coffee, when we force our bodies to give out more sexual fluids than they are equipped for constitutionally, we pull from our ojas. As mentioned, this stuff is CRITICAL to life function! We want to replenish rather than deplete this. When we deplete, we are drawing on very deep reserves that take a long time to build up. This is a gateway for disease as well as premature aging.

How does this relate to sex and libido?

Our sexual fluids, called shukra (शुक्र) in Sanskrit, are the most refined essence of the body after ojas and are said to TRANSFORM INTO OJAS, thus special care is given to how much we are giving away because having sex depletes you of both ojas and shukra.  

When your body is worn out, your reproductive function including your libido gets taxed and shuts down not only as a protective mechanism as producing offspring is one hell of an undertaking, but also because there wasn’t enough nourishment reaching that tissue. It’s like the field that’s furthest away from the river drying up first!

This is also why when people are really sick, underweight, or are excessively active their reproductive functions quit working, like gymnasts not getting their periods, or underweight women having a hard time carrying their pregnancy to term.

Having unsatisfying or excessive sex taxes your natural stores of ojas, which can age you prematurely, reduce your immunity, and have all kinds of unwanted side effects.

It is precisely this principle that has given rise to many misunderstood yet famous sexual practices, such as men withholding semen in order to conserve shukra to increase ojas to extend lifespan.

(*Note- most men do this incorrectly by trying to either SUPPRESS sexual urges or withhold ejaculation- To do this correctly requires a teacher who can show you how to follow these paths correctly, otherwise you can end up with a host of sexual disorders and beyond. A book is not sufficient.)

Women are thought to live longer in part because we absorb sexual fluids of our male partners through sex, but even so, having excessive orgasms isn’t good for women either.

Nowadays unprotected sex other than with a monogamous partner comes with risks, and if you’re using protection like condoms, neither party can absorb the sexual fluids of the other, which makes this type of sex depleting for both parties pretty equally in the modern age.

Now, there IS an exception to sex being depleting, and it involves LOVE and SATISFACTION. That’s right!

When sex is full of love and leaves both parties deeply satisfied and connected, this can actually INCREASE ojas and leave you replenished instead of depleted. This is the kind of sex we should all be striving to have.

To summarize- having excessive or unsatisfying sex can deplete you of ojas, while love-filled, satisfying sex is AWESOME and restores your ojas!

So what does it mean if I have really high or really low libido?

If your libido is really low, it means your body is depleted and you need to add appropriate herbal supplements and upgrade your diet.  What causes depletion? All kinds of stuff! Poor diet, wrong or no exercise, stress, drugs (both legal and not), the list goes on and on.

A healthy libido is a SYMPTOM of a healthy body, not a CAUSE.

If you want to have a healthy libido, the best way to go about it is by increasing overall wellness and building ojas. That’s right! So much of how we feel is tied to this, and the benefits to having a health body are innumerable- a healthy libido is just a happy side effect! Not to mention if you are healthy you are more likely to LOOK desirable and be able to satisfy your libido through attracting mates.

What if my libido is really strong?

If your libido is really strong but you have a weak constitution, then there is an underlying imbalance in your body that needs to be addressed. Why? Because having a lot of sex when you are weak physically depletes your shukra and thus your ojas, which we discussed, and can have detrimental health impacts long term. Would a western physician agree with this? Probably not- but that’s why you’re HERE, isn’t it? Because you are interested in a different paradigm of health.

If your libido is strong and your body is strong, I’m less worried about you. HOWEVER- no matter who you are, releasing sexual fluids depletes ojas and shukra- and this is when certain  foods and herbs come into play to help us build it back up!

How to replenish ojas

Ayurveda is kind and gives us remedies for the depleting aspects of sex so that we can continue to stay balanced even after the fact. What are these remedies, and how can we use them? *Please note these are not substitutes for a healthy, ojas promoting lifestyle, but are useful addendums.

There are some wonderful foods that increase ojas including ghee, mangos, dates, soaked then peeled almonds, avocados, and organic cooked and spiced whole milk.

Deep meditation and having a strong purpose in life are also INCREDIBLE for replenishing our deep immunity.

Herbs can also help, with some specific remedies given for after sex to help replenish all the juice you just lost. These include

Ashwagandha: Literally translated to smell of the horse, this herb is known for imparting sexual stamina and virility. How can you use it? A really nice way to bolster your body after emitting sexual fluids is to have some boiled then spiced milk with ½ tsp ashwagandha.

Shatāvari- probably the most mispronounced popular herb in Ayurveda (the long a is in the middle, NOT at the end), this gem translates to “100 husbands”. While I personally find the idea of 100 husbands to be less than desirable, you get the picture. This herb is great for women to take after sex as it builds up the body. You can use it the same way you use ashwagandha.

So how much sex should you be having?

Now that we have laid down the foundation of why and what kinds of sex are depleting vs replenishing, let’s get back to the conversation about what’s constitutionally appropriate.

As we age libido decreases naturally because your body is slowly but surely deteriorating, and producing sexual fluids is a resource intensive endeavor for your organism. Forcing your body to have sex because you don’t want to admit you are getting older is just plain old silly., however! This does not mean you can’t have sex just because you are older- to the contrary! This is a commentary on honoring the state of your libido and health- If you are feeling vibrant and lustful, by all means, go for it!

Why is it more important for older people to conserve their sexual fluids? If your sex drive hasn’t decreased with age especially over 60 and you feel happy, healthy, and energized, then in my opinion it’s fine to go ahead with having constitutionally appropriate sex.  If, however, you aren’t “feelin’ it”, that’s also totally cool. 60 and older marks the vāta stage of life, and having sex is a vāta increasing activity. For those who don’t know, vāta is the bringer of death and decay, deplete of ojas, and about 80% of all disease comes from vāta dosha in the end, which is why we are so obsessed with managing it in Ayurveda, especially in the later stages of life. True story.

Sexual guidelines for Vāta people

If you are naturally thin, dry, anxious, get sick easily, and have very variable energy, you probably have a vāta imbalance and should only have sex 1-2x a month. Does that bum you out? Then go get healthy and work on pacifying vāta and ojas.

Sexual guidelines for Pitta people

If you run hot, are fiery, medium build, and have a strong libido, you are probably a pitta person and can have sex healthily 1-2x a week. If you are ADDICTED to sex or feel like you need it more, you probably have a pitta imbalance and need to cool down. Please check out this video for some pitta reducing tips.

Sexual guidelines for Pitta people

If you have a sturdy build, never get sick, are emotionally stable, and generally happy, you can have sex more frequently than the other dosha types. 

Please note these recommendations change seasonally as well-

Summer= less sex because we are at our weakest due to having decreased digestive capacity

Winter= more sex because we are at our strongest due to having INCREASED digestive capacity.

To sum it all up…

A healthy libido is marker of a healthy body, and there are no long-term shortcuts to wellness. When depleted, you can use herbs and ojas promoting foods to support your libido and overall health and vibrancy. So let’s get healthy, get sexy, and keep that ojas going strong for years to come!

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